I Ching

Conflict arises when a person who is convinced he or she is entitled to something meets with opposition.  In such cases, the wiser choice is not to push things to the bitter end, because knocking heads only perpetuates bad will.  Creative solutions which meet others halfway are more valuable and longer lasting than victories achieved through force.

Conflicts in which one party is not sincere inevitably lead to subterfuge and distortions.  In such situations, those of strong character keep a clear head, protect their own integrity and look out for their own interests, even while seeking compromise.  Often this means finding a fair-minded mediator who can settle matters.

In these times of conflict and turmoil, new ventures and new initiatives are to be avoided.

This is a good time to examine the sincerity of your own beliefs and those around you.  Seek advice or arbitration from an impartial and mature person.  Consider everything carefully before making any major decisions.  It may be time to compromise.  Try to clarify the roles and responsibilities of those you work and live with so as to avoid conflict in the future.

1. Disputes and a dangerously charged atmosphere are likely, but the storm will blow over if you remain cautious.  Do not force things; avoid fighting.  There still may be a simple solution at hand, since it is possible a slight misunderstanding is at the root of the present conflict.  If you face an adversary who is much stronger than you are, drop the dispute quickly.  If you are engaging an equal, now is the time to seek allies.
2. When challenging a superior force, retreat is merely a tactic, not a disgrace.  In the face of insurmountable obstacles, misplaced valor – perhaps fueled by a sense of personal pride – is not only stupid, it’s dangerous to those around you – your allies, your friends and your community.  If an adversary with a loaded rifle has you in his gunsights, it furthers you to duck.
3. People with expansive personalities often generate conflict by attempting to acquire more – more credit for accomplishments or more material possessions – than is their due.  Learn to live within your means, to possess most dearly only those things which cannot be taken away.  You can avoid much conflict by working solely to produce good results, and to receive fair compensation for your efforts.  Let the prestige go to others.
4. Winning isn’t everything.  In situations in life where you face a weaker opponent, winning is not always even the strategic thing, particularly if you are not sure of the rightness of your position.  Remember that all conflict, no matter how much the odds favor you, carries a price.  Learn to demonstrate good will when you hold the upper hand, and you will find that in the long run your position will be strengthened.
5. In conflicts in which you are in the right, look for a just arbiter to turn the tide in your favor.  This person must be strong and above reproach, so that he has both moral authority and personal clout.  In such situations it furthers you to let go, and let the mediator take over.  If you have satisfied your own conscience that your cause is just, chances are that you will convince others of good conscience as well.  And remember, not every field is a battleground; many conflicts simply resolve themselves.
6. When success over others is achieved through sheer force of authority or superior position, the victory will not last.  Those who can win only by the sword are condemned to carry shields with them everywhere.  Beware of hollow victories.